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Sarah Palin's daughter's pregnancy. 
Sep 1st , 2008 04:33 pm
I'm not trying to drag politics into this community, but I'm curious about how supportive your families were when you had your kids, if you had your kids while still living at home or still somehow dependent on your family.

My family wasn't all that supportive. They've come around since then, I guess, but they didn't help very much and they still don't. I haven't lived at home since about a year and a half ago. What's really stupid is I have a 20 year old sister who dropped out of college to marry a 32 year old, and had a baby really soon after the wedding, and they totally fawn over that baby. When my sister got divorced she moved back home and they still fawn over her and her baby.

Is there a right or wrong way for parents to react when they're about to become grandparents because of an underage or unplanned pregnancy?
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Sep 7th , 2008 01:41 am (UTC)
they were distraught. Then they got over it.
Sep 7th , 2008 03:42 am (UTC)
I don't think there's a right and wrong way for families to react, although there are extremes that might make you go WTF?!
Sep 28th , 2009 02:01 am (UTC)
"although there are extremes that might make you go WTF?!"

My mother-in-law took the WTF approach...

My girlfriend (now wife) and I were both 17 when we found out we were going to be parents. I lived with a foster family at the time and my foster mom (practically my mother now) thought it was somehow her fault and was terrified that 'they' would take my away (god knows who 'they' were or where they were taking me to) but she was great with helping us. My wife's mother's solution was to hide her daughter away and arrange an adoption, but my wife's dad took over and we ended up staying at his place for the first year. We owe his a lot for that.

I'm now in my late 20's, have a son, a daughter and another son on the way. It's not the end of the world being teenage parents. Having kids really gave me a goal and direction in life that I didn't have before.

Appoligies for the long-windedness (I'd talk for days, weeks even, about my kids if given the opportunity)
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