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Young Dads Community
Hello and introduction. 
May 10th , 2008 09:33 pm
It seems like most communities/websites for dads are always dead, so it's nice that someone's trying to get this one going. I've seen a couple lj communities for dads come and go.

Anyway, I'm Luc and I'm 27, 28 in August. I have three kids, all girls. Morgan is 9, in 3rd grade. Samantha (Sammy) and Emma (Emmy) are twins, 7, in 1st grade. I work mornings (4-6 hrs a day, depending on work load) as an electrician. I used to work full time and lots of overtime but then I got the kids and I've cut back. I've been lucky that my employer is a good family friend and lets me take the jobs that fit into the girls' school hours.

My ex lives on the east coast. We had the girls really young (obviously) and stupidly got married when it was obvious we shouldn't have. We broke up when she was pregnant with the twins. She moved to live with her mother/family. That was my last face-to-face contact with her. I didn't see the girls until February 2007 which is when the process of getting custody of them started. My ex had gotten married and had two kids with the guy. They broke up in a bad way and she ended up flat broke and had all the kids taken because she couldn't take care of them. I got a call notifying me of that. My ex voluntarily gave up custody to me because she wasn't going to get back on her feet otherwise and she would have possibly lost all the kids if she didn't get rid of some. Apparently now she's married again. She hasn't been in touch and there's no order for visitations right now. I'm kind of hoping she stays away. It was hard on the girls to be uprooted once and even aside from selfish reasons I don't want that to happen again.

I'd like to be able to say that not having had the girls for all that time was a sad, sad thing, but the truth is I didn't think about them very much... well, I'd only known  Morgan for like 8 months and I'd never even seen the twins. Then was the fact that my ex moved so far away and there wasn't any way I could have seen them even if I had wanted to. I'd also like to be able to say that if she hadn't moved I would have been an involved/visiting dad, but at that age I can't really vouch for that, either. I guess I'll just say that I think I'm a good dad now, and I plan to keep the girls even if my ex ever comes calling. It'll take a major court battle to have me to agree to less than 50/50 custody.
May 11th , 2008 05:57 am (UTC)
Also, I hear you on the dads comm. thing. It's terrible. I don't get it, really. Most dads I talk to say they want forums and communities to be available, but the ones that are available aren't used.

I'm not exactly optimistic about this one, either. I don't have that much time or that much know-how about running communities in general.
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